168 hours in a week. We all get the same 168 hours. But the way we use time can be so different. We all want to live a full life. However, there are 5 important things you may miss in life with poor time management.
5 Things You Miss in Life
With Poor Time Management
Why do some people seem to breeze through their days, checking off items on their to-do list, hitting the gym, and reading two books a month? Why do others seem to run from one thing to another, checking e-mail and texting while at their child’s soccer game and having to pick up fast food on the way home? Because they are managing their time differently. Woman A knows how to prioritize what needs to be done first, and what can wait until later. She says yes to some commitments and no to others. Woman B is trying to do everything, not realizing what is a priority and what isn’t. She is trying to please everyone. And boy is she missing out.She is trying to please everyone. And boy is she missing out. Click To Tweet
When asked what they would do if they had more time, 72% of women say they would spend more time with their friends (based on a Chase study). You’ve probably heard this phrase before “no one ever says on their death bed ‘I wish I had spent more time working.” The people we surround ourselves with provide richness to our lives. And yet, we are often to busy to take that walk at the end of the day with a neighbor. Ever been on the phone with a girlfriend and you can just tell she’s typing on her computer, or perhaps she’s barking orders at the kids and you’re left wondering if you should just hang up? We cannot sustain or even deepen our connection with others unless we make the time to be with them and really focus on them.
In an effort to find more time, to get more done, people often sacrifice sleep. But sleep deprivation just leads to feeling more overwhelmed the next day when you’re not at the top of your game. Not getting enough sleep leads to health problems. Heck, I know sleep is so important I wrote an entire blog post about it: 8 Simple Things You Must Do for Restful Sleep. My children have often given me eye-rolls and exclaimed “mom! You think sleep fixes everything!”
I have a friend who admits having stayed up until 2 a.m. working. WHA?? Now, you might say, “well, if that’s what she needs to do for her job…” I could counter with “if your job needs you to stay up until 2 a.m. you’d better find another job.” However, I wonder, is she choosing to burn the candle at both ends and then the boss expects it? Has she spent time “taking a break” with an hour of Candy Crush Saga? I don’t know. I just know I worry about her health and safety sometimes.
Time at the Gym
Guilty. When I have a busy day the last thing I want to do is go to the gym, or go for a run. And yet when I do exercise I feel phenomenal! (I know I’m not alone in this.) So I’ve learned to schedule it. My twice a week yoga class goes on my calendar. And if someone needs me at 11 a.m. on a Tuesday or Thursday I say “I’m sorry, I have an appointment.” No one needs to know it’s an appointment for myself. I’m important too!
When I do time management sessions with clients I tell them that “self-care” must be part of their wheel. Try putting these activities on your calendar-even a long walk or a run-and see how great you feel. A few weeks of this and you’ll realize you DO deserve and need to take care of yourself.
What’s the first thing that suffers when we have too much to do? Leisure time. Yet when you effectively manage your time, you’ll have extra time in your day. I’ve seen it over and over with my clients. What would you do with a one or two extra hours each day?
You better tell me you’d spend it on leisure time because that is “recharging time.” Humans are not the Energizer Bunny. We need that downtime-to rest our minds and our bodies so we can focus when needed. A 2012 study from the National Cancer Institute showed that regular leisure time can increase life span by four years. 4! Read for yourself how leisure time is vital.
Those “extra” hours are what make our lives memorable. Laying on the lawn reading to our children. Knitting a scarf for your best friend who’s always cold. Sharing a glass of wine with neighbors on a balmy spring evening. Those moments are what we remember and treasure as life goes on.
Better Self Esteem
Let’s go back to the harried, overwhelmed woman I mentioned earlier. Her inbox is so full she feels forced to check emails at her child’s soccer game…so she feels like a bad mom. She finds an important email buried in the inbox and realizes she’s dropped the ball…so now she feels like a bad friend/employee/wife/whatever. Let’s say she so busy she hasn’t been to the gym in a month so she feels icky.
You see where I’m going with this. How you manage your time affects how you feel about yourself. No one likes to be harried, stressed, rushing through those 168 hours each week. How we spend our time definitely affects how we think about ourselves.
How we spend our days, of course, is how we spend our lives. -Anne Dillard
Don’t Miss Out on The Good Stuff
So as you plan your week (you do that, right 😉 think about fitting in time for friends, exercise, sleep and leisure time. You deserve it! That’s the good stuff in life!
My #1 Tool to Stop the Overwhelm!
- Learn what should be first on your to do list
- Identify what is keeping you from your goals
- Find time for the people and activities that nourish you
Are you ready to stop being overwhelmed? Are you ready to plan your priorities and find time for fun in less than an hour? Sure you are!